Ambivalence is the key to understanding how humans misunderstand ourselves. People talk about ambiva

Ambivalence is the key to understanding how humans misunderstand ourselves. People talk about ambivalece as this wishy-washy state where you feel a little bit one way and a little bit another. This is a delusion. More often than not we feel fiercely one way and ferociously another. It makes us confused.

Narratives about "contradiction" and "hypocrisy" assume that humans are these viewpoint monads, with one even and unvaried set of values and outlooks on the world. In reality, we each exist in a torrid emotional eigenstate perpetually. That eigenstate is forced to collapse periodically into a behavior that resolves against one of the conflicting values, but those are real moments. They are not reflections of the thunderstorm inside.